His Need: Admiration
If you have the need for admiration, you may have fallen in love with your spouse partly because of his or her compliments to you. Some people just love to be told that they are appreciated. Your spouse may also have been careful not to criticize you. If you have a need for admiration, criticism may hurt you deeply.
Many people have a deep desire to be respected, valued, and appreciated by their spouse. They need to be affirmed clearly and often. There’s nothing wrong with feeling that way.
The Battle of Britain, during World War II, has been described as the first major military campaign fought entirely by air forces.
The battle was for the defense of Great Britain against unremitting and destructive air raids conducted by the German Air Force (Luftwaffe) from July through September 1940, after the fall of France. Victory for the Luftwaffe in the air battle would have exposed Great Britain to invasion by the German army, which was then in control of the ports of France only a few miles away across the English Channel. The battle was won by the Royal Air Force (RAF) Fighter Command, whose victory not only blocked the possibility of invasion but also created the conditions for Great Britain’s survival, for the extension of the war, and for the eventual defeat of Nazi Germany.
Upon his exit from the bunker at RAF Uxbridge on 16 August 1940 when visiting the No. 11 Group RAF Operations Room during a day of battle, Churchill told Major General Hastings Ismay, ‘Don’t speak to me, I have never been so moved’. After several minutes of silence he said, ‘Never in the history of mankind has so much been owed by so many to so few’
Appreciation is one of the easiest needs to meet. Just a compliment, and presto, you’ve made your spouse’s day. On the other hand, it’s also easy to be critical. A trivial word of rebuke can be very upsetting to some people, ruining their day and withdrawing love units at an alarming rate.
Your spouse may have the power to build up or deplete his or her account in your love bank with just a few words. If you can be affected that easily, be sure to add admiration to your list of important emotional needs.
British Prime Minister Winston Churchill in his underground War Room bunker during the darkest days for the UK in World War II
A Reputation to Uphold
In this bunker, Prime Minister Winston Churchill helped to uplift millions of his countrymen in the wake of Britain’s June 1940 defeat at the Battle of Dunkirk. He gave the English people a reputation to uphold. He inspired them, he motivated them; he challenged them. In response, they rose to the occasion. They loved him for it.
This is a part of the speech that he gave to rally his people: “We shall fight in France, we shall fight in the seas and oceans, we shall fight with growing confidence and growing strength in the air, we shall defend our island, whatever the cost may be, we shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills; we shall never surrender…”
Because “As a person thinks within themselves, so they are” (Proverbs 23:7)
Researchers tell us that it takes a person an average of 10 years to become an “elite performer,” an expert in their field. The same research shows that this time is reduced dramatically if they already feel that they are gaining a recognizable reputation.
A few brief words FROM YOU, TODAY, can give your loved ones a reason to rise to the challenges of life by giving them a reputation in your eyes to uphold.